The "Non-Tangible"

There are many influences in our life that we mistakenly take for granted and don't understand completely but allow to control our daily activity through values and morals. That's when I learned of the "non-tangible: trust."


"Characteristics include"
-Belief of Character
-Follow Through/Confidence
-Rely on Another
-Do What's Right Over What is Convenient
-Reflections of Past Experience
-Honesty
-Expectations
-Willingness to Be Vulnerable


"Has someone ever mislead your trust and has now made it difficult to rely on another. And, if the answer is yes is it fair to the one that hadn't broke it to hold these barriers."


In all of us, we have different histories. Different pages to our book, different stains on each page, and certain pages that we consistency reference back to when in question... every thing we live by if we want to admit it or not has been based on these layers of lessons that we have learned along the way: both humbling and sacrificing, hurt and joy, love and lust.


How do we manage what is fair between actions of protection we do for ourselves, and openness to the fact that different people bring to the table different emotions and they are not always a reflection of the past that we have continuously have guarded by barbed wire.


In due time certain barriers we are willing to allow to decimate in order to take the risk in being "willing to be vulnerable," but often times we instinctively prepare for the worst case scenario in fear that the thing we may be willing to allow in our lives proves to disappoint.


This cycle although seems unfair; is life and trust even if our admittance to this fact is non-existant we are reflections of trust.


Think of the people we encounter on a daily basis. There are those who have the constant joy of life and continually sacrifice their own emotions hoping that the next person comes around is the next person to be able to rely on... then there are those of us who on the contrary belief, "trust until given a reason not to" flip the script and have to be proven that they are trust worthy prior to allowing to embed confidence that they will follow through...


As life progresses it seems with youthful eyes that things should be easier. We've had time to accumulate lessons that in turn should allow us to know future answers, but things become very much un-"SIM" like... there aren't emoticons above each of us telling each other the pure feelings and intent but we make decisions based on intuition and chemistry...


If anything human we often fumble and continue to prove to ourselves that trust is a needle in a haystack and that the only person we can trust is ourselves; which brings back the same question once asked...


"Has someone ever mislead your trust and has now made it difficult to rely on another. And, if the answer is yes is it fair to the one that hadn't broke it to hold these barriers." ... and in full admittance the answer is yes; and the rest time will only tell...